Love Don't Hurt

Roses are red, violets I see. 
Although it may sound crazy, 
I love you because you hurt me. 
Really???


Now that I have your attention, let's talk; let's begin with what Love truly is: 

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails.

While on Facebook the other day, I came across a post of a young man stating how some females prefer bad guys over good guys. I proceeded to reading the comments and was in awe to read what a young lady had written. She stated she did NOT want a good guy because, 'Good guys are too protective. They wanna be all up under you and try to keep up with your every move. Whereas being with a n***a, it's more exciting. Even though they may trip from time-to-time (putting their hands on you) at least it's fun being with them.' 

Did I mention she is 20 years of age? Yeah...scary huh? 

But guess what? She's not the first young lady to feel this way and she will not be the last. There are so many young ladies with this same frame of mind. Some of them tend to think if the guy doesn't disrespect them, mistreat them, or put his hands on them, then he doesn't love them. Some believe if there is no drama in the relationship (baby mama, side chick, homeboys, hustle) then there is no point in being in the relationship. Equally as sad, some are self-proclaimed 'Real B*tches' who will only go out with 'Real N***as' because good guys are...boring. 

Now on the flip side of this, because of the 'looseness' (if you will) of our young ladies, *at least that's how they are portrayed in videos, some reality shows, oh and even in real life!* many of our young men shun away from those who are not willing to give up their precious jewels, lower their standards/morale, deprive themselves of higher education, oh and date someone with their pants hanging off their butts. Good girls are too...boring.  

What is really going on? Many like to say, it's our society - there are no more gentlemen in the world. Some say, these young girls are just too much. I say what the Bible says, because everything begins with proper parenting. 

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

I know trying to raise adolescents in today's society is very difficult, but NOT impossible. Parents take your rightful place and do your part. Do not allow your child to be raised by television, YouTube, social media, Law Enforcement. Stop with the lame excuses of having to work, I have no help, people just don't understand, and all other self pities. 

Monkey see, monkey do.

Remember you are the parent and your child is going to mimic you.

Teach your children how important it is to love themselves and this will help with building up SELF = Self Esteem, Self Respect, Self Worth. All of which begins at home from the very first person in their lives...whether it be their mother, father, aunt, uncle, sibling, grandparents, etc. Begin demonstrating the "Self" factors as early as 2 years of age. Then as they progress the lessons they've learned along the way will follow.  

As parents we just can't give up...we shouldn't. Don't sit back and ridicule your child for the mistakes they are going to make along the way, help them and do it 'Judgement Free.' I mean, nothing damages Self Esteem more than being put down or called names by the one a child loves most. Not to mention, we all have areas in which we can use some improvement, so let's not make ourselves feel good by putting someone else down...especially our child. Instead, let's be the resources for uplifting and encouraging our young adults to do better. 

Love Strengthens as Lust weakens

Having a good rapport with your child will allow you to say, 'Son pull up your pants, you are so much better than that.' It will allow you to say, 'Baby girl you don't have to expose yourself to get his/her attention. Your intellect and beauty speaks for itself.

In other words, communication is key. And teaching ours to 'Love yourSelf more than you expect to be loved by someOne else' will eliminate a lot of the disrespect our young people possess towards one another. It will eliminate a lot of the disrespect our young people possess towards their elders. Manifestation of a better attitude on the outlook of life will begin to exude from them. 

Young ladies will no longer want to be known as a self proclaimed 'Real B*tch' only looking to date a 'Real N***a' and vice verse.  

Self-preservation is the first law of nature

'Love yourSELF more than you expect to be loved by someone else' is the first step in being able to Love someONE the way they deserve to be loved and you receiving it back in return. Love yourSELF more than you expect to be loved by someone else is not cockiness, but confidence. No one should be given a Powerful and Everlasting Emotion prior to you giving it to you first.  

Love Don't Hurt

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